In case there was any doubt, writing is a boys' club, so if you're a writer, this applies to you.
It's almost silly to quote from the piece as excerpts are assumed to be highlights, whereas every line of this is a highlight, but I do want to call attention to a few parts that resonate strongly with my experience:
"If somebody says or does something fucked up, call them out on it. Don't pretend like fucked up things never get said because you are afraid of getting exiled from the kingdom of being Angie Dickinson in the Rat Pack. It makes people uncomfortable to get called out on their bullshit, and they get weird and defensive [...] This might make you feel bad or like a bully but don't. Some conversations are uncomfortable but also necessary. They are so uncomfortable because they are so necessary. Discomfort is not death." One of the the things I have used this blog for is calling people out on sexist bullshit. It almost always leads to uncomfortable arguments, and I have to field defensive, dismissive, angry or outright insulting comments. It sucks and it often makes me feel like all I'm doing is racking up enemies. But it's something I care about, and I can't simply leave it up to other women, because I know many women agree but don't want to deal with the ensuing bullshit. Women frequently backchannel me or thank me in the real world for standing up and saying the feminist thing. Someone has to say it but not everybody wants to dodge rocks.
"If anybody makes fun of straight dudes and the lame bonehead things they sometimes do, you are not allowed to get defensive and say that you never do any of those things. Relax, we're aren't talking about you. We're just talking about privilege denying dudes in general, and admitting that they exist is not the same as being one. The best first step to demonstrating that you are not one is to admit that they exist." Yes yes yes. Along the same lines, if someone points out that there is a clear, consistent gender bias in an industry, such as writing, or in the masthead or table of contents of a particular magazine, or in the comment threads on a blog, or among the community of contributors and editors of Wikipedia, it is not helpful to name the one woman you know who is a part of that community, or to say "But Zadie Smith." The exception does not disprove the rule.
"Whatever you look like, it will be used against you. If you're attractive it will be used to suggest that men are just pretending to care about what you think in order to try to fuck you. If you're unattractive, it will be used to discount you as a human being entirely, on the grounds that a woman who is not physically attractive to heterosexual men is a completely useless entity, no matter how smart or talented she is." Rush Limbaugh is an extreme example of the latter view, that the only reason to be a feminist is because you're ugly and you're angry that men don't like you. As for the former: I've had men, not just any men but my friends, tell me to my face that it's easier for me to get published because I'm a woman and because I'm attractive. People will publish me in their magazines because they need token women, and people will ask me to read in their series so they can have a cute girl in the lineup. This idea that it's easier for women to succeed in male-dominated industries is pervasive and illogical. Even if magazines had an explicit quota to fill, more women would be competing for a smaller number of slots, because women are not a minority. This idea rests on two assumptions: 1) Most women aren't trying, so you all you have to do as a woman is try a little, and 2) Most men are trying, so it's harder for them to compete against each other. The average man is not trying harder, or naturally better, than the average woman.